Hakomi is a gentle, yet highly effective, method of mindful, embodied self-discovery and transformation.
What you can expect:
While every Hakomi session is different, there are some guiding principles to the method.
My number-one priority in every session is to create a compassionate and non-judgmental environment where you feel safe, respected and held with unconditional positive regard.
Regardless of where you are along your path in life, I trust that you can, and will, move and evolve according to your own inner wisdom.
Mindfulness is a key feature of the Hakomi method. Mindfulness in Hakomi can be defined as the value of being genuinely aware of exactly what is happening. This is often accomplished by slowing down and turning your attention toward your inner thoughts, emotions and physical sensations.
One of the main tools I work with is called the Hakomi Sensitivity Cycle.
Just as the moon goes through four main phases, so do we.
Those phases are: Clarity, Action, Satisfaction and Rest.
Each phase helps us to become more sensitive to our experience as a way of living more skillfully and effectively.
When we are moving smoothly through these phases it can look like this:
It’s ok to know myself - Who am I? What do I need? What do I want?
Clarity helps you to take effective action.
It’s ok to express myself. It’s ok to respond and take action.
Effective actions increase the chance of satisfaction.
It’s ok to enjoy myself - To really have what life has to offer.
Satisfaction helps you to complete, rest and rejuvenate.
It’s ok to value myself - I am enough
Rest helps to lower our internal noise, increases mindfulness and makes us more available for deeper levels of clarity.
Often we get stuck somewhere along to the way.
According to Ron Kurtz, the founder of Hakomi, this stuckness can be caused by limiting beliefs.
Hakomi is based on the idea that much of our everyday suffering is in fact unnecessary and is produced by unconscious beliefs that are no longer relevant, true or necessary. The method is designed to bring such beliefs into consciousness. Hakomi is a method of assisted self-study and discovery. It can bring normally inaccessible mental processes into consciousness gently and efficiently. Once these mental processes (such as beliefs, memories, habits and emotions) are made conscious, they can be examined and modified to provide a more realistic and satisfying way of being.
I’m a deeply practical person so at the end of each session we will review what we explored together and create a plan for how to integrate what you discovered in your session into your life.
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